Being a busy event stylist and a mother of three young children is not a big joke! Parenting isnt an easy task and sometimes a house full of boisterous children and a to-do list in my planner (that never seems to get shorter ) can feel a lot like being on an airplane in the midst of raging turbulence. The feeling is just insane!
Yes I admit that Im becoming eager for the time when my children would have some more independence and longed for the day when I was not dressing one child from head to toe and watching the other one finish her homework while struggling to stop and tame another child from doing his cartwheel. I wanted to shout, “I can’t wait until they grow up!” arrrrgh!!!
This afternoon, while busy doing my monthly decluttering. . I ve found my children's baby books which i havent seen in years. I browsed each and every page of their album and reminisced how these sometimes annoying, demanding but adorable little rascals brought a beautiful thing called 'motherhood' , a life changing experience in my life and its worth all the treasure in the world.
It can’t be true. :( They have grown so fast. Then i suddenly realize, I don’t do my daughter’s hair in pigtails anymore. I don't tie my sons Shoelace anymore. ..it struck me and waaaah.... My babies have grown!!!
From now on ill try my best to remind myself each time that I needed to cherish every single day I had with my little ones. That though my hands are full with loads of work going on right now ..there will always be a time for everything.
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| from vinze's baby album |
A time to rest, a time to read your children a story, a time to goof around,laugh.
A time to hug and kiss them. A time to tuck them to sleep and sing a lullaby ( which i did before starting to write this article). :) The touching moment is when my youngest Vinze, hugged me and said "thank you" for singing to him. it's funny just how far a little hug and "thank you" will take the heart at times, especially from a child. As i watch them sleep i was surprisingly overcome with a joy and sense of appreciation that literally filled my whole being.
This touching moment with my children was one that has made me think quite a bit over this night and write this blog and its subject is one I think we can all appreciate.
As the streams of tears somehow made their way down my cheeks, I was reminded of just how fast these treasures we’ve been given as parents grow up, and the need we have to cherish each moment with them now, as the opportunities are still there.
I dont want to have that regret of one day I'll just look and envy at a family with young children and remember back to a time when the best years of my life were the ones that went by much too fast.
Im sure every mother has a message like this stored somewhere in the back of her mind. We all have hopes and dreams for our children. We all have things we wish for them. My wishlist for my children may be a little different, but I think if it all came true, they would grow up to be happy well-rounded adults. Living and loving life.
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| My favorite pictures of them together |
This is for my children. I hope each one reads it and understands the life lessons behind my message ,wish, hope and dream.....
To Shante, Vinzen and Vinze,
I hope you guys never get too old for a hug. Hug me whenever you feel Mommy is stressed and down. Hug me when you feel Boogieman is there to scare you and Mommy will be the one to haunt them down.
I wish that we will always be best friends. I know there will come a time when you won't want to talk to me because you think I won't understand and will just yell at you. That's okay. I'll be waiting with open ears when you finally realize that I was once a rebellious teenager, too
I hope that when someone tells you no, you try it anyways. Even if it can hurt you. Here is the reason why.
When you guys were just toddlers, you didn't always listen ( well, until now). I would have to tell you "no" 3 or 4 times before you finally quit whatever you were doing.I can't tell you how frustrated Mommy was. There was a time when I stopped you from running around the wet floor until you slipped and fell on the ground. You cried so hard but I just watched you and didn't help you stand. You stood by yourself , approached me and just said sorry for not listening and will not run on wet floors anymore. After that, i never see you running on wet floors again because I'm sure you knew , running carelessly fast can hurt you. Sometimes you need to take the wrong roads, get wounded and experience failure. So go ahead and try again the next time someone tells you no. You might end up grounded and wounded, but you could also end up to be a braver,better person.
I hope that you will learn from your mistakes. There's no shame in making a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. What matters is that you take a good look at that experience and figure out how not to repeat it.
I pray that you will always put God and Family first. Others can leave and turn their backs on you, but your God and your Family will never ever leave your side.
I hope that you will always be a blessings to each other. Learn to give and always keep your heart of compassion open.
I wish you will live life with all my teachings. As i always say....live, learn and pass it on!
Life is a beautiful journey, take the right roads with the Lord and live in love.
Lastly, i want you all guys to know that my life changed the second you were born. You taught me to love unconditionally. You taught me to have patience. You taught me to have fun. You showed me what true courage and strength are. Youve inspired Mommy so much and now ive found my self worth and my magnificence. And for that, I'm saying thank you for being my angels. My world is a far better world because of you.
I love you kiddos!
Mommy Shaz
